Digital Distrust vs Helpful Humans - The Emotions Diary #29

This week I got a lesson in IRL kindnesses when travelling, not URL horror stories.

Let the Emotions Diary explain you, to you.

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This week I’m in Rome with Erik and checking out every single church this city has. And it has some stunning ones. He’s obsessed with baroque, rococo, and all things renaissance. I’m learning a bunch about it too, being raised more on modern and pop art, than what I unfortunately referred to as, “all this old stuff.”

The look I got from him… anyway, behold.

Last week’s Emotions Diary - What to do when love goes right.

After last Thursday’s T.E.D. I spent the week letting love go right here in Italy with Erik. But also noted the ghosts-of-relationships-past coming in. It led to a really interesting talk with Erik about my marriage, and some of the darker bruises it left me with. There’s always work to do. But how lovely to do it in the right direction.

This week’s Emotions Diary

Well travel ain’t what it used to be. I’ve been getting incredibly frustrated with the digital non-responsibility of hire car companies, airlines, booking.com, and holiday landlords.

But the Emotions Diary gave me a great lesson in remembering that even though we have to jump through these digital hoops to get to places, what meets when we arrive is far more kindnesses from real people than online companies.

• Why get angry about the frustrations of travel, when you already know that it’s going to be that way?

• Most people want to help you out, not rip you off. Tell yourself and others those stories.

Have a look at the whole video and see the rest of what The Emotions Diary had to say, and enjoy a walking tour of Trastavere in Rome:

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INSTRUCTIONS FOR USING THE EMOTIONS DIARY

Whatever you can’t figure out in your life, you can figure it out in here. The Emotions Diary is the tool for undividing yourself - understanding why you do, think, and feel the things you do.

You’ll need 4 things:

• A notebook

• A pen

• An open heart

• An open mind

And the practice is in 4 steps:

• What - Write down what’s going on in your life that you want an answer to; a persistent feeling, a bad habit, not knowing why you did something, general confusion etc.

• Ask - Let this formulate into a question. Sometimes the question itself surprises you, as in, oh yeah, that is what I want to ask. Also, you can go straight to the question if you already know what you want to ask.

• Wait - Relax. Let the universe do its work. Generally an answer starts coming within seconds for me.

• Answer - Write down what it “says.” Don’t overthink, edit it, or interpret it while comes. Receive it like you’re taking dictation. Capture the tone.

  And a final note is to dwell with the answer. Feel the layers of it land in you.