How To Let Yourself Off The Hook - The Emotions Diary #21

Next time guilt comes knocking, ask it for the evidence.

Let the Emotions Diary explain you, to you.

Photo by Verne Ho on Unsplash

Hey there all,

A big part of undividing the world is undoing the divisions we feel in ourselves. And the Emotions Diary is an incredible tool for that.

First of all, thanks to all the new paid subscribers, I can’t tell you what it means to me and it really helps with the work I’m doing here. And I’m happy that so many folks have started their practice. Like Eileen here, commenting on last week’s:

I’ve been really busy on a freelance job this week. But I had a meeting there where I thought I had screwed up. I could feel myself spiralling in the meeting and was convinced afterwards that I’d screwed up.

But I hadn’t. It was all emotions.

The question I asked was this: “Why am I so quick to condemn myself and stay there?”

And The Emotions Diary had a lot to say:

• Feelings aren’t facts

• Where was the evidence? No evidence means no crime.

Watch the video to see what the Emotions Diary had to say. Let’s get undividing…

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INSTRUCTIONS FOR USING THE EMOTIONS DIARY

Whatever you can’t figure out in your life, you can figure it out in here. The Emotions Diary is the tool for undividing yourself - understanding why you do, think, and feel the things you do.

You’ll need 4 things:

• A notebook

• A pen

• An open heart

• An open mind

And the practice is in 4 steps:

• What - Write down what’s going on in your life that you want an answer to; a persistent feeling, a bad habit, not knowing why you did something, general confusion etc.

• Ask - Let this formulate into a question. Sometimes the question itself surprises you, as in, oh yeah, that is what I want to ask. Also, you can go straight to the question if you already know what you want to ask.

• Wait - Relax. Let the universe do its work. Generally an answer starts coming within seconds for me.

• Answer - Write down what it “says.” Don’t overthink, edit it, or interpret it while comes. Receive it like you’re taking dictation. Capture the tone.

  And a final note is to dwell with the answer. Feel the layers of it land in you.