Roles And Costumes We've Outgrown - The Emotions Diary #27

I learned this week that family is about seeing how much you've grown.

Let the Emotions Diary explain you, to you.

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A big part of undividing the world is undoing the divisions we feel in ourselves. And the Emotions Diary is an incredible tool for that. The instructions for how to do The Emotions Diary are down the bottom of this email every week.

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This week I’m in Sardinia off the coast of Italy. An island just a smidge larger than Vermont, or like driving from Austin to Dallas.

I’m here with my parents on a holiday, so guess what… this week’s Undividing is all about family and roles we play.

Last week’s Emotions Diary - Contentedness

After last Thursday’s T.E.D. I spent the week looking at when I felt content and when I didn’t. I have to say that being mindful of it for a week helped me see some habits and reactions that needed to go. And how most of the week, even in my busiest times, I felt a sense of content. Nice to note these things.

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This week’s Emotions Diary

This week finding myself in sudden contact with my family, a lot of stuff came up about connection. But also why I want to run and hide at times where the most amount of connection is possible.

• I spend a lot of time on my own (writer’s life!) so I have to ease into 24/7 with people.

• We cast ourselves in the roles we play and can uncast ourselves any time.

Have a look at the whole video and see what The Emotions Diary had to say.

For the rest of this week I’m planning to take off an old costume I’ve outgrown, and be here with my family as me:

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INSTRUCTIONS FOR USING THE EMOTIONS DIARY

Whatever you can’t figure out in your life, you can figure it out in here. The Emotions Diary is the tool for undividing yourself - understanding why you do, think, and feel the things you do.

You’ll need 4 things:

• A notebook

• A pen

• An open heart

• An open mind

And the practice is in 4 steps:

• What - Write down what’s going on in your life that you want an answer to; a persistent feeling, a bad habit, not knowing why you did something, general confusion etc.

• Ask - Let this formulate into a question. Sometimes the question itself surprises you, as in, oh yeah, that is what I want to ask. Also, you can go straight to the question if you already know what you want to ask.

• Wait - Relax. Let the universe do its work. Generally an answer starts coming within seconds for me.

• Answer - Write down what it “says.” Don’t overthink, edit it, or interpret it while comes. Receive it like you’re taking dictation. Capture the tone.

  And a final note is to dwell with the answer. Feel the layers of it land in you.