The Gentle Art Of "No" - The Emotions Diary #30

Why does life feel like admin? I say yes too much.

Let the Emotions Diary explain you, to you.

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A big part of undividing the world is undoing the divisions we feel in ourselves. And the Emotions Diary is an incredible tool for that. The instructions for how to do The Emotions Diary are down the bottom of this email every week.

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This week’s Emotions Diary

I returned from Italy to a full inbox and a pile of obligations. Ugh. It’s all I’ve been thinking about this week. No surprises then that this week’s question is, “Why am I exhausted by life?” And T.E.D. had a lot to say:

• Do less on purpose.

• Cut things out till you feel energised.

Check out the whole video and see the rest of what The Emotions Diary had to say:

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INSTRUCTIONS FOR USING THE EMOTIONS DIARY

Whatever you can’t figure out in your life, you can figure it out in here. The Emotions Diary is the tool for undividing yourself - understanding why you do, think, and feel the things you do.

You’ll need 4 things:

• A notebook

• A pen

• An open heart

• An open mind

And the practice is in 4 steps:

• What - Write down what’s going on in your life that you want an answer to; a persistent feeling, a bad habit, not knowing why you did something, general confusion etc.

• Ask - Let this formulate into a question. Sometimes the question itself surprises you, as in, oh yeah, that is what I want to ask. Also, you can go straight to the question if you already know what you want to ask.

• Wait - Relax. Let the universe do its work. Generally an answer starts coming within seconds for me.

• Answer - Write down what it “says.” Don’t overthink, edit it, or interpret it while comes. Receive it like you’re taking dictation. Capture the tone.

  And a final note is to dwell with the answer. Feel the layers of it land in you.